Sunday, September 13, 2020

Questions: What To Do With Anger

We provide questions each week based on the topic of our service for our Verve Groups to use. If you're not in a Verve Group, feel free to use them on your own.

This week we continued our series called Emotions by talking about What To Do With Anger.
  1. Who are a couple of your favorite bands?
  2. What are a couple of your favorite movies?
  3. We learned that anger is a secondary emotion. We show anger, but really there is something else going under the surface. It might be anxiety, or hurt, or fear, or embarrassment, or grief. Think about a time when you recently got angry.
    • What primary emotion do you think might have been under the surface?
    • Why do you think you didn’t want to show that emotion?
  4. Read Psalm 109:8-13. In these verses, David prays an angry pray against his enemies.
    • How would you feel about praying in this way? Would you feel like it’s okay? Or like you’re not allowed to pray like that? Maybe that God would be upset with you?
    • Why do you think David – who was called “a man after God’s own heart” felt comfortable praying this prayer?
  5. David was in a position of power where he could have actually done the things to his enemy that he prayed God would do to his enemy. Why do you think he prayed them instead of doing them?
  6. The Bible says, in Ephesians 4:26, “If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin.”How can anger lead a person into sin?
    • Vince mentioned anger leads some people to be aggressive, others to be passive-aggressive, some to be sarcastic, others to give the silent treatment.
    • What is the sinful way you typically express your anger?
  7. Vince suggested three questions to ask when you feel upset:
    • Am I going to let myself just react in anger and say or do something I regret?
    • Where is this anger coming from?
    • Will I release my anger to God?
  8. Can you share a time when you didn’t slow down, didn’t ask those questions, and you ended up doing or saying something you regret? What could help you to slow down and ask those questions when you’re angry?
  9. What do we do with our anger? We release our anger to God in prayer.
    • Have you ever tried it? If so, how did it feel?
    • If you haven’t tried it, why do you think you haven’t?
    • What might it look like for you to do that?
  10. What could we be praying for each other this week?