Monday, February 23, 2015

Questions: The Dark Side Of Betrayal

We provide questions each week based on the theme of our service for our Micro Groups to use. If you're not in a Verve Micro Group, feel free to use them on your own.

This week we concluded our series Tales From The Dark Side and talked about "The Dark Side Of Betrayal" If you missed it, you can listen to it here.
  1. Some people believe that being betrayed is possibly the most painful hurt we can experience. Why do you think being betrayed is so painful?
  2. Is there a time you'd be willing to share that you felt betrayed? What happened?
  3. Jesus said, in Matthew 18:15-16, that when someone sins against us we should go to that person and, one on one, point out their sin. The idea isn't to shame the other person, but that they will listen and make things right.
    • Have you ever taken this course of action when betrayed? If so, what was the result?
    • What do you think makes it difficult to do this?
  4. Romans 12:18-19 says, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay says the Lord.'"
    • Do you have a "live at peace with everyone" attitude? Why or why not?
    • How can trusting God to punish those who need to be punished help you to not take (or want to take) revenge?
  5. The Bible says, in Colossians 3:13, "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."
    • If someone has betrayed you and you've never forgiven them, how is your unforgiveness hurting you?
    • Forgiving doesn't mean what the person did was ok. It means that you are giving up your right to hold a grudge and to want to retaliate. Why do you think God wants us to forgive?
    • The basis for our forgiving others is that "the Lord forgave you." How should understanding and receiving God's forgiveness empower you to offer forgiveness to others?
  6. Accountability Question:  How have I passionately pursued deeper relationships with those closest to me?
  7. Prayer Question:  What could we be praying for you this week? (Is this there something good we could celebrate with you, or a challenge you need God's help with?)